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What can adults do to avoid arguments with teenagers?

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Before you speak: Think, no matter how mad you be, hold back until you have control over your temper. Yelling and screaming will only make everything worse. Say the problem is chores, it may help to write down specifically what you are asking of the child. If necessary the consequences, if that chore is not completed. This will help get the facts in your head before hand. Also, before labeling your teen as rebellious, realize much of what you are seeing is part of their natural development. Maybe they are trying to prove they are growing up

When speaking to your teen rather then using blunt statements, that begin with the word "you", try speaking in a way that lets the child see how their behavior effects you. For example, "When you...., I feel..." Deep down your feelings are important to your teen. So letting them know how you feel, will more likely help them to cooperate.

Remember, Listen to your teen. Do not just lecture. How you respond to your child gives them a lesson, will it be a good lesson or bad? Talk to them the way you want them to talk to you. Be patient. Set a good example for your teen to follow.

In the end, your efforts to prevent conflict will make your life easier. So stay calm. Listen. Be patient. Set the example, talking the way you want to be talked to. The kind of example you want your children to follow.